In this post, i will explain "Who have the right to choose love marriage????" What they should know first...
Now a days people were showing too much interest in love marriages. But, maximum people were failing to take it to marriage. People are simply falling in love without any planning or estimating problem that may arise. Some people are too worst, they don't even know the difference between attraction, love and lust.
Please i request you people fall in love only after knowing the actual difference between the above three kinds.
ATTRACTION:
They simply look at the person and they start dreaming about them. If you think it as love, this is wrong. Some people even say it as love at first sight... Yes, love start with attraction, but it shouldn't see beauty at that first sight. In this stage people will switches to another person too. Since, if you were really in love you won't think of others persons.
LOVE:
In this, person will only see the character of the person instead of beauty, wealth or any other extra things. If a person really love, then they won't think of the other persons. They think of the future life instead of planing for the present. Some people act as they love truly and madly. If he really love you then, he won't even hesitate to explain his/her past. Since, they don't like to cheat by hiding the past. If a person, says about their past life and their future planing then you can just confirm as they love you. But, they cannot confirm 100%. If they love, they will make your relation public, that means they like to meet your friends or your family. If they don't do any of the above, then just take it lite. Don't think of it very seriously. Since, if you fix that person as life partner, you need to suffer a lot by those memories.
You should also think about some important things.
1. Can you both convince the parents for marriage.. Since, it hurts you in future to do brake up.
2. Can we adjust after marriage... Since people get fights only after marriage. If you can avoid thinking of divorce then go for marriage. If you go for divorce then your lifes will be smashed.
3. Can you both control ego's of each other.
4. Can you trust each other.... If you don't have trust. Then you will continuously fight for simple things.
5. Can you both have ability to compromise.
6. If any one gets injured, then can other help, give love and live till death (instead of killing them mentally).
7. Can you love each other even after any one have fertility problem.. People think of second marrige at this stage.
8. Both should know some values of marriage. In some traditions people do some vows. Do you know all the meanings.
9. Can you both understand the reason behind other persons silence.
10. Can you both share each others problems and encourage each other in future.
11. Can you forgive other for some mistakes made by them (Not about family affires --- Since you won't do those mistakes after knowing the meaning of vows).
Love will not lost in your life till your death.... If you love each other, understanding each other mentality. If one gets anger, one should compromise.... Love is all about compromising for each other. One should accept their defeat for other. And similarly both should follow this rule....
LUST:
There is nothing to say about lust..... It's just a sexual attraction between opposite sexes. They connected to each other by looking at others physical appearance, Structure and beauty. If these people marry, they will brake up after having sexual contact or till another beauty appears... Some people get trapped in this traps and make their own life as disaster. They just look them sexually nothing more than that.... I think, you all can understand the lust.....
Love and marry for living, not for braking hearts.... Adjust after you got married. Even you trapped in traps, its your mistake. If you have any sense then, you won't get trapped your self in those traps. It's because of your mistake..... But, don't take wrong decisions like suicide... You won't get any thing neither the other.... You loose the life, which don't have any back up or restore. It suffers your family......
Think with maturity...... Instead of blindly trusting the other, have some doubt on them..... Having doubts is better than getting trapped in traps..... If you doubt others, you may loose that person, but if you get trapped you loose your whole life.............. If they love you truly, they wait for you or at least comes back for you... They ask for apologize for their wrong step of leaving you in past...... Every one does the mistake... giving a chance is better than leaving them..... Even if you give chance, don't get trapped.
People come into your life by trusting you... If you have the guts to maintain that trust, then marry them.. If not don't even disturb them..... If you are reason for any ones sadness, then you won't succeed in your lifetime.... Even after you achieved any thing, you didn't stand up for your promise... So, You failed their.... If you get failed in life, then will be failed for ever. even after many successes in life.......
Getting married is not the issue... Holding forever is important..... We are human, not any creature....
Now a days people were showing too much interest in love marriages. But, maximum people were failing to take it to marriage. People are simply falling in love without any planning or estimating problem that may arise. Some people are too worst, they don't even know the difference between attraction, love and lust.
Please i request you people fall in love only after knowing the actual difference between the above three kinds.
ATTRACTION:
They simply look at the person and they start dreaming about them. If you think it as love, this is wrong. Some people even say it as love at first sight... Yes, love start with attraction, but it shouldn't see beauty at that first sight. In this stage people will switches to another person too. Since, if you were really in love you won't think of others persons.
LOVE:
In this, person will only see the character of the person instead of beauty, wealth or any other extra things. If a person really love, then they won't think of the other persons. They think of the future life instead of planing for the present. Some people act as they love truly and madly. If he really love you then, he won't even hesitate to explain his/her past. Since, they don't like to cheat by hiding the past. If a person, says about their past life and their future planing then you can just confirm as they love you. But, they cannot confirm 100%. If they love, they will make your relation public, that means they like to meet your friends or your family. If they don't do any of the above, then just take it lite. Don't think of it very seriously. Since, if you fix that person as life partner, you need to suffer a lot by those memories.
You should also think about some important things.
1. Can you both convince the parents for marriage.. Since, it hurts you in future to do brake up.
2. Can we adjust after marriage... Since people get fights only after marriage. If you can avoid thinking of divorce then go for marriage. If you go for divorce then your lifes will be smashed.
3. Can you both control ego's of each other.
4. Can you trust each other.... If you don't have trust. Then you will continuously fight for simple things.
5. Can you both have ability to compromise.
6. If any one gets injured, then can other help, give love and live till death (instead of killing them mentally).
7. Can you love each other even after any one have fertility problem.. People think of second marrige at this stage.
8. Both should know some values of marriage. In some traditions people do some vows. Do you know all the meanings.
9. Can you both understand the reason behind other persons silence.
10. Can you both share each others problems and encourage each other in future.
11. Can you forgive other for some mistakes made by them (Not about family affires --- Since you won't do those mistakes after knowing the meaning of vows).
Love will not lost in your life till your death.... If you love each other, understanding each other mentality. If one gets anger, one should compromise.... Love is all about compromising for each other. One should accept their defeat for other. And similarly both should follow this rule....
LUST:
There is nothing to say about lust..... It's just a sexual attraction between opposite sexes. They connected to each other by looking at others physical appearance, Structure and beauty. If these people marry, they will brake up after having sexual contact or till another beauty appears... Some people get trapped in this traps and make their own life as disaster. They just look them sexually nothing more than that.... I think, you all can understand the lust.....
Love and marry for living, not for braking hearts.... Adjust after you got married. Even you trapped in traps, its your mistake. If you have any sense then, you won't get trapped your self in those traps. It's because of your mistake..... But, don't take wrong decisions like suicide... You won't get any thing neither the other.... You loose the life, which don't have any back up or restore. It suffers your family......
Think with maturity...... Instead of blindly trusting the other, have some doubt on them..... Having doubts is better than getting trapped in traps..... If you doubt others, you may loose that person, but if you get trapped you loose your whole life.............. If they love you truly, they wait for you or at least comes back for you... They ask for apologize for their wrong step of leaving you in past...... Every one does the mistake... giving a chance is better than leaving them..... Even if you give chance, don't get trapped.
People come into your life by trusting you... If you have the guts to maintain that trust, then marry them.. If not don't even disturb them..... If you are reason for any ones sadness, then you won't succeed in your lifetime.... Even after you achieved any thing, you didn't stand up for your promise... So, You failed their.... If you get failed in life, then will be failed for ever. even after many successes in life.......
Getting married is not the issue... Holding forever is important..... We are human, not any creature....
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